Can't Progress

It's a large pill to swallow knowing that my husband and I need to find thousands of dollars in order to have a family. Most couples only need to prevent from buying a $8 pack of condoms to start their family. We missed that fun boat. It hurts knowing that no matter what we do, we won't qualify for any reproductive assistance. That means Clomid, IVF or anything similar. So we save $12,000 there.

Our donor said that we can try once. Yes, only once. Did you know that the average rate of getting pregnant each month is 16%-18%.? It's the cheapest option, but its a can of worms that might not be worth opening. An anonymous donor is still $1200 for the first month and $950 for every month there after. No insurance won't cover it!

On the other hand we can't celebrate too much, because starting at $16,000 we can begin an adoption. Well actually it's more than that because out shitty ass apartment won't qualify. The building is not insulated well and the cigarette smoke from the first floor is creeping up through the floors. Our place always smells including our clothes. So we need money to rent a new place and deep clean out 3 month old couch. Our lease is up in July, that's half of 2015 gone by then.

Don't feel sorry for us yet!

The major factor in all this is the money. We have found grants to apply for with many having the home study completed as the first requirement. For those that don't know, home studies costs $3000-$6000, depending on the agency. So do we wait until July to start the home study so that we are in a better apartment, or do we start the process while being in the current place? Will they deny us because of the smoke smell? Technically we can't start anything until we get $3000....Ugh! One grant we qualify for isn't rewarded until October. More time...

My Husband and I have been together for 10 years and trying to get pregnant for 4 years. 

We are going to withdraw from our couple's group. Everyone has either just given birth in the last 3 months or is pregnant. We have other newly pregnant friends too. Nothing shouts fun like sitting around listening to birth stories, diaper comparisons and the funniest and newest thing the baby did. There's definitely something in the water and we can't seem to get any of it. It's emotionally more than we can bare right now. I would love to not have to see another pregnant woman until I have my own child. But life isn't done teasing us.

We are lost, angry and too poor to afford to progress.

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