Thursday, August 20, 2015

Another New Place

We have been on the hunt for another new place for two months now. We tolerated this apartment all winter and won't spend another winter in it. We spent so much time last summer picking what we thought was a family home. We wanted to bring our first born home here and hopefully our second if we hadn't bought a home by then. We were confronted with a host of lies and surprises since we moved in.

What we failed to notice:

1. The landlords placed air fresheners all around the front door of the duplex and the hallway. We thought it was because they were painting. No, it was because the front porch contains (still there) a fire hazard worth of junk from the downstairs neighbor and friend. The friend (more on that later) finally cut up one urine soaked rug and washed two others that have hug outside all winter over the wood fence. YUCK!

2. No HEAT the first week of January. Did I ever mention that we live in Minnesota? We didn't have heat for a week and the landlord asked us to buy a space heater until she can fix it. They came over with a hair dryer to "melt the pipes". The wife left her space heater the second day after kindly letting us know it was her Christmas present. I really didn't care who gave her what, we were freezing. They finally hired someone on day 5 when we threatened to leave this apartment and have them send our deposit check to the lawyers.

3. The friend from above isn't a friend that "hangs around" he actually lives in the downstairs unit. The landlord acted surprised when we told her that him and his loud dog have taken over the tiny backyard. He doesn't clean up after the dog nor is it on a leash. The landlords said that he just visits but come to find out that he makes tenant #3 in a two bedroom apartment.

4. Smoke! The landlord forgot to tell us about all the smoking the lower tenants partake in. They smoke cigarettes and weed like it's no tomorrow. And since my husband is asthmatic, and we want to see tomorrow, we are going to leave.

5. Old and Nasty Bathroom. We knew that the bathroom was a little old but that's not the problem. The problem is that the landlord knows that the tub backs up and taught how to plunge it every month to get the water to flow smoothly. That's disgusting and they are beyond lazy. They don't want to fix it at all.

6. Mickey Mouse is in the House. The landlords were called twice for the two mice that ran around our apartment for a month. Their response "did you lay down traps?" We were living here for less than 6 months and had the rudest visitors.

7. Cherry on top. We were informed about the "nursing home" across the street and how they would get a visit from the ambulance nearly every day. We thought we could manage that. But what were not informed of was the fact that it's nothing more than a low income housing building that the police, ambulance and fire department is dispatched there 3 times a day on average. Nothing ever seems to happen but they make a lot of noise all night and day long!!!!

8. Broken doesn't mean fix, it means ignore. The landlords know of the leaky attic, the loud broken ceiling fan, all the screens that fell out the screened in porch, the unpainted rooms when we moved in and the unfinished wood floors. They have done nothing to fix these issues.

9. They only come by for a rent pick-up. We receive monthly text messages to kindly place our rent check in the mailbox. It's no way I can live with someone bothering me monthly for rent. We always paid rent on time without reminders and then we come into this slumlord's space and now she thinks we need a gentle reminder...every...single...month!

So now you see why this apartment duplex is a one year and done kind of place. We can not stay any longer. We fulfilled our responsibility of one year and we ran away to somewhere nicer, quieter, cleaner and smoke free August 1st!

Monday, August 17, 2015

Second Time's A Charm?

Second time's a charm right? Well we hoped so. Mr. Mind and I went in for the second donation procedure in June. We were much more relaxed and calm. We knew what to expect and where to go. We used the best ovulation sticks and I kicked managed the coffee habit two weeks prior. I've spent a month increasing my intake of fruits and veggies with smoothies and juicing. Strawberry picking for my business, SpoonFull, helped to increase the intake. I heard so much about the pineapple core trick and tried it when we were trying naturally. So I tried the pineapple again this time. I limited a lot of stress this time. My three jobs are currently now down to two and soon to be down to one. More on that later...

It took a while to accept the percentage possibility of getting pregnant that the doctor gave. I am satisfied that the more I try this, the higher the chances of pregnancy, yet the poorer we will be. Mr. Mind and I are giving this the good ole baseball homage: "One...two...three strikes you out with our limited babbbby fund!!!" Just in case you didn't know, infertility treatments are EXPENSIVE!! Due to privacy of the donor and the helping agency I can't go into costs details for all the medical parts, but I will try to give averages in a separate post.

Well, I just wanted to report that try #2 did NOT work. We are not pregnant...Boo Hoo! Third Times a Charm I bet.

As for now, I am sitting back and enjoying the summer weather. Lemonade in a glass and mushrooms on the grill. Husband and I are just counting down to try #3!

Monday, June 8, 2015

A Mother's Day Wish

On April 27, I hurried my way into the infertility clinic with my husband high on my heels. We headed to the first office to verify insurance and then down the hall to the beautifully decorated doctor's office. Mr. Mind and I were one of four couples waiting to be seen. All the women in the room knew what we were in there for. We all want children and this was the humble place to get them.

The nurse called my name and we both popped up like turkey timers. Right to the room we went. I verified everything from name, age, cycle ending date, ovulation date, and donor information. With the nurse waiting outside the room, I hopped on the table and laid back. (Why do they leave the room when they are going to see everything anyway?) The nurse came in, did the procedure in 10 minutes and told me to lay still for 15 minutes. "That's it?! Way too fast lady!"

Mr. Mind stood at my head the whole time, (nurse's suggestion) and didn't say much. He was squeezing my hand as though he was in pain. When she left the room, I squealed "Ok, it's over. Stop Squeezing!!" We said a prayer for this tremendous step we took and the health and life of the potential baby before laying for 25 minutes. Yeah, I stole an extra 10 minutes in that room!

I got dressed and gathered all my things and walked out the doctor's office clinching my uterus tightly. It resulted in a funny walk, but who cares. I had something more precious that gold in there and I wanted to leave it there!

The two week wait was not too bad. I was super nervous the next day after the procedure but life returned to normal. Friday May 8, I ran to the bathroom to test for pregnancy. Mother's Day was two days away and I wanted to know that I was pregnant. I received a negative on the test. No fear, I'll try again on Sunday. Sunday morning, Mother's Day, Mr. Mind gave me a very sweet card recognizing that day as my first Mother's Day. My mother-in-law and one of my brother-in-law called and wished me a happy day also. Everyone believed that I would get a positive test. However I stood in the bathroom with a pregnancy test with only one line. The cycle was to end the next day and I was not getting a positive test.

Per doctor's request, I went into the office of the 14th day after the procedure for a blood test, Monday. A half an hour later I got a call saying I was not pregnant. Shock, stunned and hurt. But no tears fell. I informed my husband and he was angrier than I. Stating he doesn't understand why. We spent the whole evening sort of silent. We spoke about tv shows and food.

Later that night, trying to sleep, I asked him the lay his hand on my empty womb and say a prayer. In all things, give thanks and that's what we did with tears finally falling.

We will have to do this all over again. The money and time spent worrying about doing this procedure was back upon us. No baby for the Johnstree Family and our mother's didn't have a great Mother's Day because I wasn't a Mother (yet)...

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